While we were at the park the other morning with Riley and Harley, I was thinking about how lucky I am. Others have pointed that out to me throughout the years and I wondered why they would ever say that because I have had some really bad stuff happen in my life. I’ve had some really dark moments as I’ve wandered through this tunnel they call life. But then, haven’t we all? A dear friend recently told his story of going to a shrink, beginning with the opening, “you won’t believe this story. The shrink replied, “with all respect, there are really only five stories…the rest are variations on the theme.” While we all like to think we are unique and individual ~ and, to a certain extent, we are ~ the themes of what we all experience are similar. Abandonment, grief, loss, love, happiness. There are more, I’m sure, but I’ll stop with the first five that came to mind.
Life is a roller coaster. You’ve all heard that before because I think a cliche is really truth clothed in repetition. Yet, there are times when the ride is better than others. Much better. The world with all its’ challengers is a tricky place. Much more difficult and complicated than when I was growing up in an amazing place that made it look like Ozzie and Harriet lived in a slum. But I didn’t have any idea what a slum was. Hell, in 1978 the kid at the Locust Valley deli told me to go next door to the hardware store when I asked for lox. Truth…but, I digress. What would I change about my life if I could? Well, the really horrible “people I love dying way too young stuff.” But, the rest? Hmmm…maybe I stayed too long at a couple of the parties ~ sorry ex-husband(s) ~ but every stepping stone along the way lead me to “now.” And, what is “now,” you might ask? I started this blog because a childhood friend contacted me out of the blue and remembered things about me I had forgotten. One being how much I enjoyed writing. But then I had to figure out what to write about? The inconsistency of attempting to be consistent boggled my mind, so I just wrote as life happened..both past and present. Serendipity became a theme. Not by choice, but by happenings…both past and present.
Present happenings include Facebook which brought back old friends, new friends with common interests and a lot of pictures of dogs. People also tend to post meaningful sayings that give insight into what is happening in their lives. There are themes. When I returned from my walk and started this post I went onto Facebook and this was what I saw. I didn’t search for them. This is what was what various friends were posting. # 1 “You still got it!! It doesn’t matter how old you are…it doesn’t matter if you don’t have two pennies to rub together and the ATM machine says…”Put your card away!” You may have gone through a major disappointment, or may feel stuck and overwhelmed. Know this…You still got it! Even if you feel that all the odds are against you…keep looking up! Friends and others may laugh. Continue to look for ways to win, and say to yourself…over and over again with deep conviction ~ “I still got it.” Work to improve yourself, and strengthen your mind. Remember that even if things don’t turn out exactly as you would like them to…it won’t be the end of your world. Keep the faith…and keep saying to yourself…”I still got it…because you do!” You deserve!” ~ Les Brown.
Now, my having a birthday fast approaching that definitely put me on the fast track to Medicare, I considered this a positive reinforcement of both my vitality and that of my retirement savings.#2 “If you have faith and believe everything happens for a reason, it will make the really tough moments in your life mentally easier to handle. Do well. Help others. Be positive. And ride out the tough time. Something good is on the horizon if things aren’t going right, right now. Life always balances itself out.”
Having just rescued an amazing dog under completely serendipitous circumstances after so sadly losing one just two months ago, I decided “balance…good.” #3 Some of the most obvious and simple things in life tend to be most important: Being angry makes you angry. Being happy makes you happy. Being where you want to be — or more important — where you DON’T want to be — is a choice you make. It really is that simple ~ John Lillywhite
John says some really smart things. It is all about choice, isn’t it?
Serendipity, Luck, Faith…the happenings of the past couple of weeks have shown me most definitively that “somebody up there likes me.” I have never believed in coincidence and I’m not going to start now.
So my friends, if you’re going through a dip on the roller coaster…hold on. Wallow for a while and then get back to it. The ride up is a challenge but don’t ever forget to put your arms up and scream on the exhilarating ride down.
And, remember this…also appearing on my feed that same day.
You’ve Always had the Power my Dear. You’ve had it all along.